This is where we feel bad. Here’s why we feel bad. We look at what we want and say,

Of course we become more refined and we rationalize our justifications in more sophisticated ways. Essentially though our direction is the same as a two-year-old’s temper tantrum. Our focus is on what is blocking us from having what we want. This makes us feel bad. After a while as we focus more attention on what blocks us we will have more detailed and sophisticated explanations. In time we’ll believe these more strongly and so get further away from the thing we want. Maybe we’ll even shut off from wanting things and feel numb, depressed, lifeless and stagnant.

The second state is where you are on the path to what you want. Think of it this way. You dig a hole in the ground, through your thoughts, for what you want.

What you want is in a bowl that would fit perfectly into the hole you have dug. But at the moment there are obstacles blocking you from having what you want. These are like sticks holding the bowl (what you want) apart from your hole.

Often there are many obstacles between you and what you want. So you have many bowls separated from each other by sticks propping them up.

So the process is to identify what the first obstacle is between you and the thing you want. Tackle it and knock the stick away. The bowl will fall into the ground.

Repeat this over and over and sooner or later the thing you want will fall into the hole you dug and you have created that which you wanted.

Some say to this, but it seems like such an effort.

Perhaps.

The key point is this. As you are tackling the obstacles and focusing on what you want… you feel good. You feel excitement, passion and life flowing through your veins.

It isn’t really even about the end goal. It’s about the journey. And you can know you are travelling towards what you want if you feel good and away from it if you feel bad.