The Main Barrier To A Happy Marriage?

Today we live in a society where many marriages do not last. And so Politicians and Religious leaders say we should do more to prevent divorce.

The truth is that our relationships are not any more unhealthy than before.

But today as the pace of life speeds up... and because people can leave their relationships far easier than ever before... more people do take the choice to leave.

On the one hand it is relatively easy (compared to previous generations) to leave a marriage. And at the same time media images have raised our expectations of our Partner.

The expectations we are led to believe both consciously and subconsciously are impossible to live up to. And so it is far harder to enjoy a happy marriage.

No woman can attain the level of perfection that airbrushing can provide.

Neither can men be as rugged, sensitive and heroic as romantic images might suggest.

So once the honeymoon period is over, both parties receive these media messages. And so there seem to be so many other more appealing choices for either party than the reality.

Which is that few people really do know how to enjoy a relationship.

And so when they feel angry or frustrated with the other they begin to feel bitter and cheated.

Then the bickering starts... and they grow apart. Not inevitably, but just because often they do not know how to get back on the path to a happy marriage again.