I’m in the middle of writing a report at the moment, but I came across something today and thought it was so important that I had to drop everything for a minute to share it with you. It was while I was looking around at other people’s ideas on basic human needs, I came across these forum posts from Tony Robbins Students. It’s so sad. They are trying so hard to do the right thing, yet making the biggest mistake that people seeking personal or spiritual growth make and doing the exact opposite thing that my report is crusades for. It comes across so glaringly obvious to me that I was actually going to write a commentary on this, but as I write I think it might be more insightful if you were to post below what you think is the biggest mistake these forum Posters are making. I just want to check rather than assume, you are not making the same mistake. After everyone’s had a chance to comment if you are interested, I will share what I see is the biggest mistake any of us can make in life.
My Updated Comment
The mistake that I see these Students making could perhaps be seen as living from the head versus the heart or overthinking as Mindy, Robert and John said. It is exhausting Tammy, to try to wrap your head around such distorted ideas. If you look at the initial post there wasn’t even a real problem to deal with. Deanna put it most clearly and closest to the words I would have used though.
Just stop screwing around reading other people’s ideas and go out and directly interact with Life yourself instead of Tony says this and Tony says that.
What’s behind all this is that people are so filled with fear and insecurity that they might get something wrong and it might hurt them that they fear life. And so the human wish is that someone either through divine right, applied knowledge or luck has found the secret to living and will easily teach it to them.
It is this fear that has founded all the world’s religions. Yet many of the people around whom the religions were built frustrated their Followers for their lack of specific instruction. Because they knew that life could not be prescribed, it can only be experienced through direct interaction.
Believe nothing, no matter where you read it, or who said it, no matter if I have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense.
Jesus gave only two guidelines;
Love the Lord God above all others and
Love your neighbour as yourself.
Yet since their death, Buddhists and Christians have spent their time at conflict on what specific dogma, actions and practices everyone must follow. Life will always give you the answer, but we are all so busy telling Life what the answer should be we can’t hear it.
Man has always sought meaning, but once he’s found it he’ll cling to it like a Child’s beloved comfort blanket. And God help anyone who tries to wrest him from his mistaken beliefs.
However, once you think about something you are no longer engaged with life, you are dealing with a stagnant representation of Life. And when you are thinking about what someone else thought about Life, you have become so removed from Life that it all becomes a complex and confusing mess to try to sort through.
It’s not that you can’t learn and grow quicker from people like Tony Robbins. Lots of people do. The wide sharing of lots of people’s specialised ideas is contributing to our increasing creativity and evolution. However you have to be responsible about it. You can’t just adopt someone else’s philosophy and belief system wholesale.
If you could you would just be living someone else’s life.
You have to test ideas out in your own experience and compare them with your existing views so that you are not just blindly replacing one idea for another, but are instead finding something truer and so upgrading your Operating System.
You don’t need a 6 Step Program, a Guru or a Priest. All you need is the willingness to open up to Life and listen to what it tells you. The solution to any situation is to get to the truth. Unfortunately most of us, most of the time aren’t willing to listen. That’s why I’m always saying, You can be right or happy, but not both.
You see, Life is dynamic and evolving. As we are. And so you cannot approach Life with some sterile prescribed techniques, you have to be open, vulnerable and willing to be hurt. And often you will get it wrong. And sometimes it will hurt, but you will have been alive. You will feel blood coursing through your veins. And you will grow into a truer understanding of Life.