I was a happy person. I have aids in 1991. I am happy still until I start to paint that came out on news paper than I got a wife. She is a nurse working in cdc. We got married nobody knows we were very loving until some of the stuff working in cdc knows. Than thing get tough for us until we cannot even go out we got to hide and so stress, married for 3 years than she left me she have a boyfriend in US. My heart always hurt can’t stop thinking of her.
I have nothing nobody wants to hire me I look so thin. I have nothing.
Now nobody in Singapore wants to listen to me they say I am wrong. Everybody hate me. I am like an alien sometimes. Why I live so long to suffer all this. Help me please.
To summarise your question, you’ve been abandoned, persecuted and told you are wrong – how can you still be happy?
Your story reminds me of someone who lived a long time ago. Of course there have been thousands, probably millions, who’ve been treated atrociously by the world.
But I think everyone reading this will understand from this particular story. He too was abandoned by those he loved. He was persecuted for no reason. He was eventually executed by those who disagreed with him.
And yet by any reasonable standards he did nothing but good.
By most measures of success – in his lifetime – he may have been considered a failure. He never achieved material success. He never succeeded in changing conditions to suit his beliefs. However his story changed hundreds of lives. Today who remembers the political leader, or the successful merchant of his era.
The story took place two thousand years ago. And the individual’s name would in English be Jeshua, although we actually know him as Jesus.
You see the point I want to make is that the world is never fair. It never was, never has been and never will be. The source of all misery is based in one mistake. It is wanting life to be as we think it should be.
Life just is.
And if your happiness is dependent on how the world treats you then you will forever be bounced around by life. Pain comes only from struggling and wanting life to be any other way than it is.
The secret to mastering life is a little like a martial art. You do not ever have the strength to beat it, or force it, to submit to your will. But if you learn how to direct it’s own force where you want it to go, you can do anything.
Your happiness does not have to depend on what happens around you.
It doesn’t matter if no one likes you.
It doesn’t matter if nothing you do ever works out.
Your happiness depends entirely on you. But what you need to do, is work out what your life is about.
What is it that is so important to you… what do you feel so strongly about… that you are willing to die for?
When you have what you would lay your life down for, then you can begin to live. Until then life is just a matter of avoiding being hurt. You can’t begin to live until you are ready to die. You see most people are so terrified of being hurt that they avoid living. Really living. Instead they are forever defending themselves and so never moving towards the life they want.
Now this thing – your passion – has to be something bigger, to you, than your life or anyone else’s life. Not just something like success or popularity.
If you want to be successful in the world… your success will die with you.
If you want to be influential in the world… your influence will die with you.
Your thing is something eternal.
To really live has nothing to do with material success or with approval or popularity. It has only to do with one thing.
What is your life about?
And are you living that?
If you do this everything else will come. If you don’t you’re screwed.
Nothing will ever fulfill or satisfy you. And your time is wasted.
Everything else is ultimately meaningless.
Life is just an illusion. I know it seems so real. Especially when you feel such pain. But really all life is… is a series of events designed to stimulate you. If you respond to that stimulation you become stronger. If you don’t you’ll be crushed.
But you can only respond when you have something to use as a yardstick. Without a grand consuming purpose you fall back on using the world’s measures.
You’ll start looking for other people’s approval. Once you start doing that you’re always going to be bounced from pillar to post. There’s never enough that you can do to please them. You’ll never have control over how you feel and so your happiness and worth flip-flop depending on the circumstances.
The secret to life to transcending the world and it’s circumstances is in using what I call the ‘Jesus Strategy’.
It’s the strategy that Geniuses and Guru’s throughout history have discovered and tried to share in their own words. I call it the ‘Jesus Strategy’ because for me he modelled it most clearly, most extremely and most consistently. Others such as Musician’s and Artists tapped into it in their moment of Genius, but never understood how to apply it in their everyday life.
This strategy is so powerful and so overwhelming that when you discover how to apply it… it will flood confidence and clarity over doubt, fear and failure.
You won’t have to struggle through weariness… you’ll be filled with energy and passion.
You won’t have to turn yourself into a square peg in order to succeed… success will come to you.
Follow Up Comments – How I’m Doing Now
Thanks for your kindness. I am glad now i live happily thanks .
For me now is just easy, make people happy always i get happiness and give those in need is like everything to me is priceless.
Only happiness is the key to get that happiness is to make people happy.
Is just like a click in the mind forget the past that can destroy the future life on to be better by seeing people happy.
Don’t think of the past that go round and round in the head it makes you look dull and no expression so people see that they feel you are a problem person no one gets near you .